Going through a separation can be emotionally tumultuous on any given day, but on days such as Father’s Day, the emotions exponentially larger, particularly where separation is coupled with estrangement from your children.
If you are in the unhappy situation of being unable to spend time with your children this Father’s Day, for whatever reason, it is important to not to lose sight that Father’s Day is not just one day.
There a variety of things you can do to ensure you make it through the day with as little stress and disappointment as possible. Here are some of the things we have found assisted our clients:
- Redirect: If Father’s Day plans fall through, try not to get disappointed. Easier said than done, but remember, it’s not just one day. Endeavour to change plans, where you can, even if it means setting a later date.
- Keep in touch: Where you can, keep in touch via a video chat/call. Share memories with your children in form of photos or stories. You can even drop a heartfelt email or text. Tech-shy? Why not try a good old-fashioned phone call/phone message?
- Treat yourself: Make plans to spend a day out with mates; start on that DIY project; pick up that book you always want to read.
- Reach out: Where you can, reach out to your father or father figures and spend some time with them. If you are aware of other parents who are going through a similar time as you, get it touch with them and make plans to meet up.
- Volunteer: Never underestimate the feeling that comes with doing some good in the world. Volunteer at your local charities and lend a hand.
It is easy to place an enormous amount of importance on one day, when fatherhood is something to be celebrated every day.
Hadley Family Law has assisted many parents with negotiating parenting matters with their former spouses. If you need our services, we are but a phone call away.