For most people relationship break ups are the single most intensely distressing period of their adult life as everything that was stable in their lives is thrown into chaos.
A mixture of grief at the loss of a partner, anger at that person bringing the separation about, or guilt at being the one who made the decision to walk away are all factors, each difficult enough to deal with in themselves but on top of that, there follows more frequently than not, a change of address, and a separation of finances. The immediate questions of should I go or should I stay, can I afford rent, how long will it take me to find somewhere else to live, how long will it take to get these things resolved, and a myriad of other questions swirl around the mind of the newly separated.
I understand in my practice how stressful it is for even the most rational of us to deal what is an extraordinary situation in our lives. Although separation is not unique in society, it is unique to the separated person. When one adds disputed child arrangements into the mix the roller coaster of emotions can be even more intense.
I see my role as helping my clients get through a resolution of all the issues that a relationship break up can bring, about and helping them get through that situation with the minimum of stress involved as much as practicably possible and enable them to retain their dignity under fire.
Yes there can be a dignified divorce.
In my practice I strive to assist my clients to reach a negotiated outcome where the outcome is in their hands and not the hands of a judge. But don’t think that I just deal with relationships breaking up. Sometimes prevention is better than a cure.
More and more, particularly in second marriages, my clients are looking to ensure both parties are on the same page when it comes to finances. This is the world of prenuptial agreements or financial agreements, which also help parties decide in advance how they can both walk away in a financial sense with a minimum of legal intervention and in a civilized manner.
As a family lawyer, I don’t just deal with the breakdown of a relationship or with resolving parenting issues. The joy of starting a family is also another area where I can help my clients, guiding them through surrogacy and adoption arrangements.
I am passionate about my profession and I am fortunate to work with people who are equally passionate. My practice is a boutique family law practice, that’s what myself and my team do best.